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Book Review: 'Expecting Perfect: My Bumpy Journey to Mommyhood'


When I decided to review “Expecting Perfect: My Bumpy Journey to Mommyhood,”  I really didn’t know what to expect from Nadine Bubeck’s debut book. I thought the word “perfect” was a pretty odd juxtaposition with anything pregnancy or parenting related. As a mom of three, I know that pregnancy nor motherhood are the embodiments of perfection. Yet, with much curiosity and an open mind, I read about Bubeck’s total life-changing experience of becoming a parent.  'Expecting Perfect: My Bumpy Journey to Mommyhood'

A first-time mom, Bubeck, who was born in the Philadelphia area and now calls Arizona her home, shares her private pregnancy journal with the world in a tell-all fashion. She writes very frankly about her and husband Nate’s practices in the bedroom to ensure a positive pregnancy test, complete with healthy nutrition and even “legs in the air.” She shares her fear of possible infertility, even before the possibility existed. Then, with much anticipation, Bubeck brings readers to the elation and gratitude she feels when she learns she’s pregnant, including the tender moment she shares with her husband as she reveals the news to him.

“He put his arms around me, and I could feel him shaking. I was too. He held me like a father would a child; like a husband would his pregnant wife. It felt safe. It felt good.”

As I was reading, my thoughts travelled back to 2004, when I learned of my first pregnancy after returning from a business trip to the west coast. I couldn’t help but smile, as Nadine’s joyous news clearly overwhelmed their emotions, like it did for me and my husband more than nine years ago.

With each chapter, Bubeck, who was previously a traffic reporter in Phoenix, spills intimate details of such feelings, while unabashedly revealing her anxiety, concerns and practical obsession with her unborn child. Is her behavior normal? Is she sensing impending doom? Or is she just like most other moms-to-be, on the long nine-month wait to a healthy baby? Although it’s been a while since my first pregnancy, I could totally relate.

Bubeck even brings her worry to another level, where she takes pregnancy tests again, several weeks after her confirmed positive result, looking for the constant reassurance that her child-to-be is healthy and safe. In this, I applaud her honesty. Not many mothers-to-be will share these anecdotes with even their closest of friends.

Call it motherly intuition, but her concerns are validated when she is diagnosed at 20 weeks with Placenta Previa, where the placenta is low-lying in the uterus and either partially or completely covering the cervix. This condition affects 1 in 200 pregnancies a year. It is then when Bubeck is told she will likely require bed rest, experience bleeding, and birth a preemie by Caesarean Section- all of which eventually happened. Her son, Nicholas, despite being born six weeks early, is a healthy nine-month-old today.

As a TV personality, YouTube sensation and blogger extraordinaire, there’s no doubt that people will want to dive into “Expecting Perfect.” I’m sure those, like me, can relate well to Bubeck’s fascination with the idea of perfection; constantly foraging for flawless results that come from hard work and perseverance. Yet it’s Bubeck who, by using the irony of her debut title, reminds us that sometimes life happens despite well laid-out plans.

To get your copy of “Expecting Perfect: My Bumpy Journey to Mommyhood,” go to http://www.expectingperfect.com/.

Julia Sherwin is a freelance writer and mother of three who lives in Chester County. She is a former college journalism instructor who enjoys running, biking, swimming, traveling and cooking.

Email her at jsherwin73@gmail.com  and followe her on Twitter @JuliaSherwinPoPYou can also follow her other parenting articles at juliasherwin.wordpress.com.

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